The Ridiculist | Diet Culture BS on the Internet

The Ridiculist | Diet Culture BS on the Internet

Sorry if I got excited in this video and offended people chatting feminism and patriarchy.
I also apologize if you’re offended by the idea of Health at Every Size. I will be doing a whole series on IE that I’m currently researching and writing, but I promise I will make extra sure to a balanced view of diets to come and also of the evidence. I want to offer some Coles Notes to clear some things up:
1) It’s HEALTH at every size, not HEALTHY. Meaning people come naturally in different sizes and shapes and that often yo-yo dieting / weight cycling drives those weights up and can cause a wide range of health issues. Learning to eat intuitively (stopping the yo-yo dieting) is a great way to nestle back into your natural healthy weight. I will be doing a full video on this over the weeks/months to come.
2) Intuitive eating does not mean EAT ALL THE THINGS. It has 10 tenants but starts by rejecting the diet mentality, and giving yourself PERMISSION to eat what you actually want. If you’ve been dieting all your life, typically you might experience feeling out of control and eating all of the foods that were forbidden. But soon the novelty wears off. They lose their allure. And you can start to learn hunger and fullness cues and soon incorporate gentle nutrition. So for example, by listening to my body (and not judging it when it wants something sweet), I learn that I feel best when I have protein for breakfast like eggs instead of pancakes. Pancakes are not forbidden so they’re not so enticing, and over time the day, week, month will look more balanced. It will eliminate the restrict and binge cycle which evidence suggests forces set point weight up.
3)I want you to know that if you’re pursuing weight loss, you’re welcome here. 100%!! I do not shame you. I support you. If you’re eating a certain diet, even if its restrictive, and this feels good to you- AMAZING. You do you. The reason I am a bit aggressive in the diet culture talk is that we are so engrained in it, it takes a lot of shouting and pointing it out, to actually SEE that some of these thing are a problem. So I support you in whatever journey you’re on, I just want to share that intentional weight loss is statistically not likely to result in a smaller body, and I instead focus on IE because (while I know its a lengthier/ not a quick fix process), it can result in less yo-yo dieting, and better health behaviours and outcomes.
4) Thin privilege doesn’t mean that one was just born thin (ie didn’t have to “work” for it). It means that society is set up in a way that is easier for “thin / medium size” people. Think not only clothes and seats but also medical attention! Research suggests that large body folks have worse medical attention than smaller bodied people which of course has implications for health outcomes.
5) I apologize for not saying “parents” and only saying mom. You’re 100% – all parents should be aware of these issues. That was a slip!
6) I know it seems like intuitive eating (IE) is not possible for you if you’ve been dieting for a long time or feel out of control/ like you cannot be trusted with food. Or that intuitive eating is just for people who are already “thin”. I totally understand how it feels unattainable based on your current experience with food. It’s not something you can just “do”, it will require a process and practice. For some clinical situations (eating disorders), some people may need to work w a R.D. with diet guidelines to help with weight restoration before they can fully learn IE. But even during this process, anyone can start to incorporate at least some tenants of intuitive eating. It is a long process for some people depending on how long they have been struggling in their relationship with food. But as you work through the principals, starting with rejecting the diet mentality, you can start to relearn hunger cues and incorporate gentle nutrition. We were all born intuitive eaters, I believe with enough practice and dedication, we can all get back there.

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  1. Ishika Sachdeva on November 23, 2021 at 4:31 pm

    I can finally see why people hate Canadians

  2. Liiza A. Hanson on November 23, 2021 at 4:33 pm

    Every time Abbey swears it adds a year to my life. Really shows how pissed she is. Loving raw emotions from a dietician.

  3. Suz Q on November 23, 2021 at 4:34 pm

    Fuck Urban Outfitters! I don’t but there stuff
    anyway but had no idea how racist they were

  4. Angela Anasta on November 23, 2021 at 4:36 pm

    Atkins not diet bars they are low carb and yummy if you don’t like them don’t eat them if it triggers you that’s something to do with your own mental health which you need to sort out. If BS like this triggers you you need therapy

  5. tarmanda1116 on November 23, 2021 at 4:36 pm

    In case no one told you, putting a distasteful slogan on a t shirt is not a hate crime. Nor is it similar to a hate crime. Being hung from a tree because youre black? That’s a hate crime. Being killed in a bomb at a mosque? Hate crime. Being too afraid of going to Synagogue for fear of being hurt? Hate crime. A company selling a shirt that offends you? Not a hate crime. You’ve publicly said that you don’t read criticism about yourself, and that’s pretty obvious from your videos, making flippant comments such as that is at best ignorant, and at worst dangerous. Your poor word choices have power. Interestingly enough, which is what you’re complaining about in this video. Someone of your age and platform should know better.

  6. CherryJuli on November 23, 2021 at 4:37 pm

    These plates were made by men. Women know that mom jeans are super uncomfortable if you’re not skinny. 😅

  7. Anna Grace on November 23, 2021 at 4:38 pm

    I’m just commenting to make the number of comments an even 900. Also great video!

  8. DaxIsAName on November 23, 2021 at 4:38 pm

    I think that a locking box is a good tool for people starting out to learn about what "self control" looks like but it should eventually transitioned out of your life once you get the hang of it.

  9. Ελισάβετ Α. on November 23, 2021 at 4:39 pm

    I eat everything in normal doses and I never had any issue with weight 🙂 i never knew i had a good relationship with my body signals regards my hunger 🙂 for a while i was about to fell in the trap of good/bad food , counting calories , obsessing about meals portions but fortunately i realized my that i always had good relationship with food. I didn’t knew it.
    An i want to address that diet mentality is base on the illogical state of mind that every food that taste like box is healthy whatever has even the slightest taste is fattening. Even if you choose between food that consider to be healthy like fruits they will tell that that there are even more healthier among the healthy stuff and they will forbid you to eat fruits that you love. For example you might like banana 🍌 but they will tell you to eat an idea of sour apple 🍎
    like universe are you trolling us???

  10. Emma-Rae Oakes on November 23, 2021 at 4:39 pm

    I have recovered from orthorexia and plummeted straight into binge eating disorder, I have bought all the books on intuitive eating and tried my hardest to follow along for about 4 years all that happened was a 15lb gain in weight each year, I am now working with a psychologist and I have bought one of those food safes and it works wonders for me, I have had a good chat with her about how I use it and how it makes me feel and she agrees that it is a great tool for me to have. I love your usual content but this one upset me.

  11. Paige Hansen on November 23, 2021 at 4:42 pm

    How 👏 can 👏 people 👏 ever 👏 talk 👏 badly 👏 about 👏 abbey 👏

    You are incredible and I love the ‘tude.

    I really hate humans, sometimes.

  12. AtoZbodyfitness on November 23, 2021 at 4:44 pm

    their issue is there are not enough educated people to be putting out content at all, to be honest. You’ll have people who do things that worked for them and tell everyone to do the same thing they did think that they will get the same results and that’s not always the case. It can be for some people but even then you might not get the exact same results. But for a lot of others, it might not work. we are all genetically different. on top of this, a lot of people putting out information, including influencers with big accounts, don’t know what they are talking about. and when they do stuff like this people, and younger kids latch on to them because they want to look like them. so not only are they getting bad information but they just become focus on looking a certain way. kids need to be focused on being kids and just eat in a healthier manner that s respective to their weight and body until they get older. But with all this being said, some people need to go on diets. they need to reduce caloric intake in order to lose weight. in a perfect world, intuitive eating could work but unfortunately, it doesn’t. and when you take into major consideration someone’s genetics, there are people out there who can get obese ALOT faster than others. while there are other people who find it harder to put on fat. it doesn’t mean they can’t gain weight, it just means their body’s genetic receptors don’t respond the same as everyone is different. so diets are needed, I don’t see an issue with dieting at all as long as they are done properly. if you diet right, then you can still have your energy levels and feel fine. it’s just not reality where people don’t diet and will lose weight.

  13. LLCooL L on November 23, 2021 at 4:45 pm

    I am SO MUCH more offended by the fact that you felt the need to apologize for merely mentioning patriarchy and feminism than I ever could be about anything else you’ve ever said. If some of your more sexist or oppressed or terribly misinformed or under informed viewers don’t understand that we are in FACT living in a patriarchy, or if they think feminism is a dirty word, then they can go ahead and f*ck right off. We need strong, smart women like you to really stand up against that type of ignorance and not back down just because it might lose you a tiny iota of your viewers. Maybe it’s just a polite Canadian thing that I don’t understand but personally I think some people deserve to get offended, especially if they are spewing hate that is harmful to the health, happiness, and success of women everywhere.

  14. Sabrina Fair on November 23, 2021 at 4:46 pm

    Love the last one i just know I would empty the sucker ENTIRELY when it unlocked just because it is forbidden LOL. Am of the belief that just because you can doesnt mean you should and the invention of the fork and the locking box are prime examples of this. Keep up the good work 💗💗

  15. Laura Johnson on November 23, 2021 at 4:48 pm

    Thank you for this video. However, I want to point out that have an older video here on your channel where you appear on Marilyn Dennis’ show and recommend using chop sticks to get smaller amounts of food in your mouth. I know this segment was filmed years ago, but I was shocked when I watched it. Not only was it diet-culture-y and promoting disorder eating behaviors, it was also culturally insensitive. I know your more recent content is a lot better, but just a heads up you have some pretty triggering content on your channel. I was really taken a back because I started following you to learn more about intuitive eating.

  16. Complete Wellness on November 23, 2021 at 4:51 pm

    I had to watch this twice because I was laughing too hard the first time to catch most off the deets, lol. I used to be a personal trainer and worked out of a gym that I came to find out was way more about making money than truly helping people become healthier (I didn’t say skinnier!) versions of themselves. It was heart-breaking to see (tactics encouraged by management) people fat-shaming and bullying the brave souls who had worked up the courage to come into the gym for assistance in the first place. Brava, Abbey!

  17. Misbah saeed on November 23, 2021 at 4:51 pm

    Thankyou I am doing an EPQ on ‘is it finally time to ditch the diet culture’ this video is great

  18. Brilliant But Blue on November 23, 2021 at 4:52 pm

    This was the funniest yet sad video you have ever made (aside from the gingerbread house Christmas craft edition). I’d love to know did anyone ever send you a photo of the damage they did to the shaming dinnerware?

  19. Silvia Sciarroni on November 23, 2021 at 4:52 pm


  20. Trylica on November 23, 2021 at 4:54 pm

    Cuz Americans need to eat more.

  21. Khensani Mhelembe on November 23, 2021 at 4:55 pm

    You are seriously not calling "eat less" on a t-shirt a hate crime. Super tonedeaf here Abby

  22. Nui Phawinee on November 23, 2021 at 4:55 pm

    I would love to have that box to lock my phone!!!

  23. Liv Atripaldi on November 23, 2021 at 4:55 pm

    tiktok brought me here. you are so very wise and have been such a huge help to me when I’ve struggled with relapse.

  24. David Johnson on November 23, 2021 at 4:57 pm

    Why not just eat healthy and lost weight? You have a choice what goes into your body so if you wanna be healthy and lose weight. Sorry but unless you are deformed then you don’t really have much to complain about you are just complaining about BS. People only have a long list of excuses of why they can’t or wont lose weight. Just admit you are happy at your weight even though you may not be as healthy as you could be and people may not find it so healthy.

  25. kaijobomb on November 23, 2021 at 4:59 pm

    i am verry disturbed at the fact that you are a mother.

  26. Walter Parada on November 23, 2021 at 5:01 pm

    PATRIARCHY!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  27. Steph on November 23, 2021 at 5:05 pm

    I am SO HERE for sassy Abbey!

  28. WalkingLISAsterArea on November 23, 2021 at 5:06 pm

    I have to say I like this video more than your new ones. You seem more energetic and honestly yourself. Nowadays it seems to me that you are realy holding back and containing youself for a more proper, calmer apperance.
    I don’t eant to offend you with this. It is just my impression now that I’ve seen so.e older videos of you.

  29. The1080pPixel on November 23, 2021 at 5:07 pm

    As a young man with an eating disorder its kinda hurtful that you imply its just women struggling with diet culture:(

  30. Nessa JP on November 23, 2021 at 5:07 pm

    The bit about ‘having treats in the house is no biggie’… Oh boy that is so not my case. If I know it’s in the house, I can’t just not have it. I got a binging problem but I keep it under control by not buying sweets for my crazy sweet tooth. I eat healthy most of the time bc I know my triggers and I shop accordingly. I have treats pretty much 5 days of the week (so I don’t really restrict my sweet tooth at all!) but I buy my treats right when I want them and I buy just for that moment only. If I buy sweets for a week, I will have eaten them all by midnight… Just saying.

  31. Rhiannon Graves on November 23, 2021 at 5:08 pm

    Absolutely loved this vid! But also all these products are so infuriating grrr

  32. sunnysideup on November 23, 2021 at 5:08 pm

    Omg I’m so glad I found your channel! These companies have lost their damn minds!

  33. Marijuana Girl on November 23, 2021 at 5:10 pm

    Any kind of this kind of bullshit I find in stores I pick it up and I hide it somewhere random as fuck in the store

  34. james t on November 23, 2021 at 5:12 pm

    Diet culture AKA people that can actually sustain a diet from more than 3 days

  35. Janelle Rose on November 23, 2021 at 5:12 pm

    Omg please don’t apologize for chatting feminism and the patriarchy. The patriarchy is the one who should be apologizing. Diet culture is anti women’s rights. Read "The Beauty Myth" by Naomi Wolf for reference

  36. Debbie Clark Artist on November 23, 2021 at 5:14 pm

    Hi Abbey, thank you for your videos! I’m 51 years of age. I started dieting at age 12. Mostly crash diets. I was a super chubby kid. I hated my body. Until now. My last diet claim to fame was Weight Watchers when I was 33 years old, I have been counting and not counting and secretly logging and forgetting to log for years. I have gained and lost a lot of weight. Because of you I have been reading “Intuitive eating” on Audiobook. Next up will be HAES. Something has finally clicked. I love and want to take care of my own body now. The messages from the Rich Companies are deadly. How many people have to live and die with eating disorders before we as the consumer do something about it? Well, I’m on board with the boycott. I am doing something and it feels good!

  37. Dr. Farah Ali on November 23, 2021 at 5:15 pm

    like fine, they’re not a great store….but hate crime???? seriously? let’s equivocate someone being overweight to actual hate crimes…come on

  38. Simone Taddia on November 23, 2021 at 5:16 pm

    1) Better than "fat-phobia", I’d say type-2-diabetes-phobia.
    Obese people have high insulin resistance, which leads to type 2 diabetes. Skinny people have high cholesterol and maybe hypercholesterolemia. In Italy, a plate of 33 cm is for pizza, but a normal dinner plate is 17 cm.
    In the USA, a plate for pizza is for dinner.
    Portion control and moderation are the keys.
    2) Cut of sex in a relationship, no men would date women; cut of the money in a relationship, no women would date men.

  39. Ginger Gamer on November 23, 2021 at 5:17 pm

    I love this side of her so much

  40. Luvour _ on November 23, 2021 at 5:17 pm

    Do do do do

  41. H. P. on November 23, 2021 at 5:21 pm

    I don’t understand what’s the problem with the candy bar? F21 probably had a marketing deal with them, I’d be happy to receive free food lol

  42. Angela Anasta on November 23, 2021 at 5:21 pm

    Used to love Abbey now unsucribing

  43. lil Durk on November 23, 2021 at 5:21 pm

    Holy shit shut the fuck up

  44. Susan Oakes on November 23, 2021 at 5:24 pm

    I couldn’t like this more.

  45. DaxIsAName on November 23, 2021 at 5:24 pm

    Was this the beginning of the end for Forever 21? Get rekt diet culture. Lol.

  46. Melissa Elliott on November 23, 2021 at 5:25 pm

    I really like Chikara transformations reaction to this video. I would suggest you watch it Abbey. I think she does a great job calling out YOUR bullshit while being respectful. A lot of people look up to you and you aren’t helping them but pandering to their cravings.

  47. Ryan Ryan on November 23, 2021 at 5:26 pm

    You really don’t need to diet. You can eat pizza all day if you want, you just need to make sure you eat less calories than your burn. Then, your body will use your fat cells for the energy and you’ll slowly lose weight. You don’t ever need to follow any type of diet

  48. Jessica 🐟🐠🐡🦀 on November 23, 2021 at 5:27 pm

    You are swearing so much 😂

  49. Hunter Fox on November 23, 2021 at 5:28 pm

    The k-safe is great… though don’t use it for food yet. I would, if I had treats in the house, as someone that binges in the "going back" for second/thirds/fourths way, I think it’s okay to have aids to help me at times. It let’s me stop thinking about the thing I lock away.

  50. Nanna Hebsgaard on November 23, 2021 at 5:29 pm

    Abbie popped off…. and I’m living for it!! 👀

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